Barack VS Donald

I assure you this is NOT a political post, by any means. Plenty of bias opinions here, but this isn't about my opinion on 2017 current political events... I'm here to write about myself...and about dating...

Throughout these last few weeks we've been witnessing the transition from Barack Obama to Donald Trump, and within this sad transition, we have been witnessing a difference in character between two married men. It's all fun & games to look at the million memes, like the this one...

But the reality is... we've all dated a Donald before and we've all wanted, or have, or had a Barack before. A cold shoulder, non publicly affectionate guy, VS the guy that looks at you like you're the best thing to ever happen since white bread... 

Trust me when I say I've dated a few Donald's or at least people that had his tendencies (based on the images being shared in the internet, who knows what this man is like privately) Men that you kinda have to guess if they are into you or not. Who crack jokes on you, before they tell you you're beautiful, who make very little effort to remind you just how dope you really are. Men who kinda make you feel like you should be more thankful for them, than they are for you... 

Obviously you're aware how awesome you are and try to convince yourself that you don't need that reassurance from anyone...

Until you meet someone who does...you meet someone that does in fact make you feel like you're the most amazing thing they've ever been around... someone who looks at you the way you only thought existed on TV...Then your mind is officially blown. You are so tainted though that you immediately question someone that praises you too much. You side eye anyone making too much of an effort, and for a split second you're kinda like OH SHIT, is this how it's suppose to be?? 

Then you realize, you might not NEED constant praise & reassurance, but you should WANT to be with someone willing to shower you with praise. You should want someone that makes you question everyone else & how they felt. GIVEN, not everyone shows affection the same, and often these things don't always make one person better than another... 

BUT...

don't ever settle for Donald if he doesn't acknowledge your greatness... don't ever settle for anyone that doesn't see how dope you really are. Don't settle for anyone that makes you think you need to change things about yourself in order for them to love you... 

Anyone that you settle for should consider you everything they've been waiting for.... 

otherwise... he ain't the one.

xoxo

signs the girl whose only seeking Barack... 

Live for the moment...

                        "Hola, Amor!! Sometimes from time to time you encounter souls that simply align with your energy. People who calm your mind and make things simply feel...right... Embrace those people, enjoy them for as long as you have them. Life is ever changing & we don't know what tomorrow holds, but today... today it makes sense...so let it...xoxo ElizTalks"

That was my morning message this morning to my friends & Family... basically a message to myself.

Sometimes we become so afraid of enjoying a moment based on all the bad moments we've previously experienced. So much so that we forget to live it. We forget to be grateful for it... we become skeptical & doubtful of what will happen later, that we don't fully notice the right now. We smile with our heads full of doubts. We embrace with a heart full of fear. Almost like we're constantly saying "I know this is good, but for how long?". As humans we have fooled ourselves into believing that if we anticipate the bad, then when the bad comes it won't feel as bad. When in reality that's never true. It still hurts...except you spent all the good prepping for it. So it all turns out to be a loss...

So why do it? Why spend your time worried over something that may never happen. Or if it does what's the point of worrying the whole way there?

This is not to say to blindly let go of fear. This is not to say to ignore the caution signs and run to a dead end street... It's simply to say, if it's good right now...let it be good. Get this goods fullest potential and deal with the road ahead when you get there. Reality is you don't know where any path leads, we simply assume the whole way through.... We walk all these roads of life unaware of it's twist and turns.

Life is basically one huge plot twist....

Trust me, I know... because I've just encountered another one of mine...and I'm still deciding if to embrace it for all the good or to run because of all the bad it might or might not eventually lead to...

xoxo
signs the girl who is never fully convinced

Catch the bouquet...

I'm not sure if I mentioned it before, but a few months back I attended a lovely wedding in the Dominican Republic. I've attended a few weddings here & there, haven't been to a wedding I haven't enjoyed.

Like all weddings the bride tossed her bouquet to a bunch of single gals wishing to one day be in her place. I assure you in my 30 years of life, I had never bothered to catch it, either because I didn't care to be married, I was already married, or simply the thought of being married again terrified me...So I usually sat this part out.

Except this time... This time... I too was that gal wishing to one day be in her place. This time I held my long dress up, put my game face on & stated... I'M CATCHING THIS BOUQUET...

& jumped...

jumped like if my future wedding depended on this single catch.

& sure enough... I did... I caught the freaking bouquet.

I felt triumphant, Frolicked around the dance floor with my arms in the air, super excited & happy because I caught it...

This is me... way too happy to be holding the bouquet

which means I'm next...right?? 

Then when the excitement settled, I realized superstition can only get you so far, babygirl.

So there I was, still a single girl, except this time I had this bouquet in my hands... except this time I realized, HOLY SHIT... I want to get married. So bad, that I participated in foolish games simply because somehow the universe was going to make that happen for me just because I caught the bouquet.

If only it worked that way...

If you had asked me 3.5 years ago...(heck if you asked me 1 year ago) if I wanted to get married again, I'd probably laugh in your face, roll my eyes and say some type of snarky remark.

But somehow that changed this year...Not sure if turning 30 attributed to it, or if it was officially meeting someone I really wanted to be with (you'll hear about this story one day)... but somehow this year I became that girl that wanted the wedding again... I became the girl that saw her life with someone... I became the girl that jumps up to catch bouquets... I became the girl I thought I lost many moons ago...

& you know what... I don't mind her. I don't mind her one freaking bit. I love this new found want & desire to be open to a future with someone. I've been so closed to it that I had previously found myself in questionable situations and it makes sense why. I just wasn't ready.

Now I am...

Not to say that changes anything... you likely won't be getting wedding invites next month.... but who knows...maybe one day...

I did catch the bouquet after all... & they say it means I'm next...

You can't see me in this pic... But I assure you...I CAUGHT IT ...

xoxo
signs the girl that somehow believes in fairy-tales again...

Feeling New

I can't possibly be the only person that feels this crazy feeling of reboot when a new year begins. An extra pep in your step, almost like you're getting another chance to make things right this time around.

Nothing really changed, it's literally another day, BUT mentally it's so much more than that. Some new year transitions feel better than others, but this is one of the good ones, hopefully it's telling of the year to come, but I've learned you really can't determine what an entire year will hold. I simply know, right now, in this very moment I feel rejuvenated & tenacious!

Tonight is vision board night! A now consistent Sena Sister tradition. We gather images of what we expect of the year, put it on a board and set forward to accomplish these things. It's our way to throwing it out to the universe exactly what we're working towards. Not to say we stick it on paper & hope for the best. The board serves as a daily reminder of what we wanted day 1. Whenever we forget, we can look at where we began and where we expect to head to. It's a reminder to put in the work, because this is exactly what we wanted. (If you don't make vision boards, I consider you try it one year, you'll be surprised how accountable it makes you)

I might have way too many images this year, but all attainable, I have a few of the same goals, with an additional few in between. I'm very specific with certain things that I want... Some are out of my hands, and others are solely determined by the amount of effort I put in.

Fitness is always on my board, Saving money, Lowering debt, strengthening relationships, travel...you know things of that nature...

One of the pieces I'm adding to my board reads the following...

If you know me, you know letting go is by far the most difficult thing for me to do. I don't hold on to grudges or ill feelings... but I sure do hold on to people & precious moments. Like photographs I wish to keep everything for nearly EVER. Even when it's long over do. So this year I'm practicing the art of letting the universe do its thing. Not pushing or pulling...simply being & allowing what's meant for me to be for me... While all things require work and some effort, it should never feel like an impossible uphill battle. So while I'm working on so many things & setting goals. I'm also accepting that some things are out of my hands & must be left to God & the universe. That no matter how much work we put in, certain things only work if they work. Others, no matter what you do, they won't. So non-attachment is the theme of 2017, to put effort where effort is required & that's it...

Guess you can stay tuned to see what Eliz has to talk about this year... it's always an adventure, and I will always have a story to continue telling....


Happy New Year my loyal readers.... Hope 2017 is magical for you....


xoxo
Signs the girl that is setting goals & crushing them

Year In Review 2016...

"Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road... 

time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go...

so make the best of this test & don't ask why..."

Here we go again... another 365 days...52 weeks...8,760 hours...coming to an end, while another 365 face us ahead...ready to change absolutely everything.

Looking back to 2016 overwhelms me, and not in a bad way the way other previous unmentionable years have... But in a very filling, growing, memorable way. So much happened this year that has truly molded the next chapter of my life. I entered my 30th chapter this year, so that within itself is enough to remember. I guess I didn't realize how much would actually happen, but at this point I'm not sure how I'm even surprised. How I could look back at a full year and still be left in shock with how much transpired.

One thing I'll say, is that I'm extremely proud of myself for the goals set & met this year. How for once "new year, new me" was actually manifested... & if nothing else, I'll take that with me and continue on that path, as best possible. But, like all years, It wasn't all roses & sunflowers... It had it's fair share of tears, fears, heartbreaks & let downs. It had moments that tested everything I stand for, and it has changed me. It had untold stories and secrets. It had things that I wish I could change. Things that I don't fully understand just yet, but know that in the long-run it will all make sense.

So many new beginnings, mixed with endings. Changed relationships/friendships, strengthen bonds, and solidified paths... so many intricate parts that make 2016 worth writing about. It was a year that like so many others will one day be determinant to where I am in life down the line. The decisions made today, will in fact be seen tomorrow... I'm ready to see where this path takes me...

I guess this year, like so many others will hold a special place in this story of mine... I appreciate it for what it was.

Cheers to a new one to come...

"It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right... I hope you had the time of your life..."

xoxo
signs the girl ready for the next ride...

Same Page...

One of life's many let downs is meeting someone and not being on the same page. Such a vital detail is being on the same wavelength in any successful relationship, be it friendship, a partnership, work or any ship in life. (But for the sake of this post we'll focus on intimate relationships.) Not being on the same page can determine absolutely everything moving forward.

How a story begins and ends is all determined on how well versed you are. Figuring out where someone stands is often not common knowledge in the very beginning. It takes some time of feeling a situation out and going from there. Truth is some people go in unsure what they want, they simply go along and find that out eventually. You can go into something not wanting anything at all, and end up getting so much from it, as you can also go into something wanting the world, and getting nothing from it. It's all trail & error.

You can't really blame anyone for not being on the same page as you, unless all throughout they claimed to be. Otherwise, you can't force anyone to be exactly where you want them to be...

You also run into circumstances in which you can't entirely pinpoint why something isn't full working out, where two people are seemingly seeking the same thing yet the cards aren't falling into place. This is where things get tricky... Often the desire for something to work means nothing if it wasn't meant to. You only acknowledge this when other things just effortlessly work... Not to assume that things are smooth sailing and the only requirement is for you to be on the same page, But the universe fights us tooth & nail when something isn't meant for us, we just have to listen to the signs... Just like the universe opens doors when things are suppose to work.

This isn't to say that you'll never be on the same page if you aren't intially, just saying it will be quite difficult to continue a book when you aren't initially. Someone is either going to rush to catch up, or someone else has to slow down to wait.

I guess the most difficult part of this, is watching those that weren't on your same page, be a perfectly written verse on someone else book...

xoxo
signs the girl seeking her verses...

New Year

33 days left in the year... 

While I'm aware that the concept of time is relative and arguable. I do often find myself extremely reflective this time of year. I look back on all the goals & plans I set for the year and how well I did or didn't. I take note of the lessons learned and the collective failures and accomplishments. The stories that began, those that ended. The new characters in my story and who I am today versus when the year started.

I must admit, 2016 was one of the better years I've seen in a long time. I'm grateful even for it's questionable moments. Goals were met, journeys were taken and my soul was filled. I started to work on a foundation I was ignoring for so many years now. I truly, geniuely focused on me and fixed the cracks that many years of negligence had created. I built with my future in mind, while still being focused on the present moment.

I met new people, dated, traveled, dieted, worked out, budgeted, focused...LIVED...

I originally wrote this post and had in mind listing all the amazing things that happened to me this year, along with my hard work & efforts...Then I realized that to be grateful you don't have to announce every single accomplishment. Those that know, do for a reason, and those that don't know, probably don't need to. That I can pat myself in the back and pop my own bottle of champagne, that my accomplishments don't grow or diminish based on who knows or doesn't. That often the things that fill our souls do not have to necessarily be shared. This too was part of the lessons learned in 2016. Every year is in fact another year of wisdom & knowledge. Another year filled with lifelong lessons and stories for days... If you have nothing to say about this year, then you likely didn't do much or didn't focus hard enough on the things the universe was showing you.

The year has 33 days left, and I'm sure in those 33 days I will continue to experience things, and I will have moments that change absolutely everything... or maybe it will be 33 conclusive days of 2016...

none the less, I will forever remember this year, as the year in which so much fell into place and I finally got some parts of my life together... SOME...

xoxo
signs the girl extremely grateful for 2016...