Selfish- Self Reflect- Self.

I was called selfish the other day. (among other things "self involved, needy, childish, the world doesn't revolve around me, extra...etc....etc... clearly I've been having a hell of a few days lol) Can't say it was the first time, unfortunately...
But it might have been one of the first times that I took a seat & thought hummmm...

"how selfish am I" (& all those other things) 

As much as I act like things just slide right off me, I more often than not, take in everything everyone says and reflect on it. Even if I don't fully believe the things someone is saying, I know they have a reason for saying the things they do. It always stems from something & it's clearly the perspective they have of me, one I've helped form.

We tend to forget that the conclusions drawn about us, all come from things we've done or said in the past. So sometimes, it's not the persons fault, but the fault of the things you're doing that is giving the wrong impression. Or what you think is not a true reflection of you. We're quick to backlash, roll our eyes and dismiss unsolicited opinions. Quick to shut someone out that's letting you know simple observations they've made about you (trust me, my first instinct is always to tell people to go suck one)...

BUT... after you've had your moment. You should truly...genuinely take it in. Digest everything they have said and figure out where it's coming from. GIVEN, sometimes these opinions are coming from people that don't even know you from a hole in the wall. & other times these opinions are coming from a very bias place. BUT regardless of that, ALWAYS reflect. You can't change what everyone thinks of you, it's nearly impossible, in fact you shouldn't entirely care what every single person thinks. But you can truly change your approach on things and see how things change. Not to say to alter who you are or your beliefs, heck you might be completely happy with the things you do and not give a shit what anyone ever says.

I'm just not that person. Some opinions matter more than others, especially when I agree with it to an extent. Especially when I'm on a path of bettering myself and the only way to do that is to take in what the universe is telling you. In reality self reflection is useless if you're only relying on self. You are never in it alone, so you have to trust the process. Trust that everyone in your path is there to help you or teach you something...

So I'm learning... I'm reflecting... wish you would do the same.

xoxo
signs the girl that admits imperfection.