Sticking around

One thing I've learn to accept, is that you truly just learn as you go. That certain life lessons definitely can't be skipped. That you can witness 10,000 things happening around you, but they won't "click" until it's happening to you.  

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That intro didn't have much to do with what my topic but it's a good thing to know...

So, people (the internet) often tell you a variation of the following:

If someone loves you, they'll show you...

If they want you around, they'll keep you around 

Let them go if they come back it was meant for you...

Actions speak louder than words

etc (you can go ahead and add the ones you've heard)

I say...NOT ALWAYS.

I think we tend to forget that every single situation is so unique, that as humans we have various similarities but yet we're all so different.

I'm a believer in listening to your gut, because that's when you'll genuinely know if someone is about you. That the knot in your chest that is constantly telling you something isn't sitting right, is likely because...

IT'S.NOT.RIGHT.

Because if any of the above quotes were even remotely accurate (all the time) then I'm one lucky gal, because a whole lot of people are in love with me (they're not, I promise you they aren't).

Again every situation is different, but I think people stay in unhealthy situations because of sayings like the ones above.

People hold on to every bit of hope left even when they're well aware something isn't good for them, simply because
"oh they came back"... 
"he cares so much, he can't stay away"... 
"he hit me up again"

when the truth is, as humans sometimes we're shitty individuals and do shitty things, & as someone that has done some shitty things in my life... trust me, those things don't always mean someone cares (at least not the way you want them to). People do great things & come back around for a million reasons, they don't always mean, YOU.

you wouldn't really doubt someone that cares... you just know. 

People fuck up, yes. This is not to say to discredit someone immediately. I'm simply saying don't give a fucked up person, so much credit. Don't give meaning to every little detail only to validate your current situation.

if it isn't for you... it just isn't.

my opinion.

xoxo
signs the girl that is always learning...