Stop being a friend...

As I was discussing/recapping 2015 with my lovely L.A. Lover. a series of interesting topics came up (please note 65% of my content is triggered by our conversations, shout out to you Leeny). 

Obviously our usual "how the fugz are we single, we're super dope"... followed by a reoccurring theme in both our lives. We are way too comfortable hanging out with guys, that we often treat the men we are romantically dating or interested in, the same way we treat our guy friends.

She was recently given the advice to stop that...

obviously this triggered a flow of thoughts...
how exactly do you stop being your comfortable self?
how do you alter your natural instinct of treating someone you're talking to like you would all your friends, as anything different?
how do you stop being a cool girl to chill with?

I have the luxury and the curse of having a lot of guy friends, guys that I could talk to about anything & everything. I pick their brains often on a plethora of topics. So through the years I've collected a great deal of information and also just naturally I'm comfortable with them, and they are comfortable with me.

But one thing I never ever learned is to be someone else with someone I'm interested in. I've obviously heard it before, I've been told "Hey Eliz, you can't talk to everyone like this"... but, then how else?

How do you miraculously put your girlfriend cap on  and stop being the cool girl, because apparently you can't be both.

Given, I've been in relationships before, long term relationships, a few of them. Not sure when I threw that girlfriend cap away. But I'm not the girl I use to be. AT.ALL.

I often take pride in knowing I'm so easy to get along with , that people in all walks of life enjoy my energy. I dig it that people think I'm dope enough to keep around.

But, apparently not dope enough for anything else... At least not with the people I've been interested in being anything else with, which in that case hasn't been many people, so I guess I should stop complaining. I guess instead of evaluating who I am so much, I should start looking at who I'm interested in. Maybe I'm such a good friend, because essentially these people were meant to be just that...friends...

I guess my girlfriend cap will come on when I'm ready to be that, with who I want to be that with.

For now... I'll be that girl that happens to be every ones friend.

xoxo
signs the girl with the friends...