Splitting the Tab

Since we're in the year 2016...and not 1950 the rules of dating have changed quite a bit. The expectations, overall dynamics, "rules & regulations" I guess you can say, are just different, not that I know what dating was like in 1950, but let's just assume entirely different.

But I'm not here to discuss all the ins & outs of modern day dating...

I want to discuss one tiny part, this phenomenon that seems to erupt controversy among all my groups of friends (male & female alike)..

Splitting the Tab... (going dutch)

growing up a Latina from the heights a certain "standard" was set by my family. One in which you basically saw the man as the sole financial provider (even while a woman worked in the household). Obviously my mom was very adamant about us not depending on a man for much of anything, except possibly procreating (refer to this post to get a clearer picture)... Sooo to an extent I basically have mix feelings about dating and what we expect from men, on one hand what we know & saw was a man fully providing... but what we were taught, is that if you can do it yourself...do it...

So, you can see how this becomes an issue with dating in 2016 (or 2015, yet to have a date in 2016 to tell you how it went)... I'm torn between should I have this man that i'm just getting to know fully provide & pay for things, or should I be macho woman and let him know I got mine & could handle it? What kind of tone am I setting by doing either or. We somehow have created this belief that like dogs, you can train a man (and I agree lol) so we assume that if we treat your new dog bad habits, like not paying...you will forever deal with this. But, how true is that? How fair is that?

It's a toss up. I've found myself on various ends of this,
the side were a man provides even the tissue you use to blow your nose,
to the man that expects you to buy his tissue and your own...
to the man that ask you to go half on that said tissue.

Which way is the right way?... my honest opinion... from my heart, who cares about this tissue, do I like this guy?!...
The logical side of me says splitting for a tissue that you're using really isn't that bad...
Run away from the guy making you buy his tissue... and thanks to Mom, be weary of the guy buying you everything...including a tissue.

So as you can see I'm left with absolutely no conclusion to this or answer..

what the heck do I know, and what the heck do ANY OF YOU actually know? lol...

do what you want...

xoxo
signs the girl taking it as it comes...