The 1st of the month...

I'm a young gal of 29 years old ::giggle::, which means a lot of things...but for the sake of this post,.One of the main things it means is that I'm surrounded by people that are in a lot of different places in their lives...

• Friends with babies
• Single Moms
• Married Friends
• Friends that are divorced
• Engaged friends
• Single friends
• Friends that think they're 21
• Friends that think they're 45
• Friends making a lot of money
• Friends that don't make enough
• Friends that still live at home
• Friends with roommates
• Friends that own homes
• Friends that have moved several times
• Friends that leave the state
• Friends that leave the city

The older we get, (& obviously if you maintain as many friendships as I do,) the more gaps are created with where people are in life relative to you. These things will continue to vary as the years progress, these very things are what makes it difficult to maintain certain friendships. Solely because, the things you use to have in common are things from back when you were seemingly on the same boat. Since then, you have gone off to different shores, often unable to relate. 

I make a conscience effort to maintain my friendships despite all these differences, I like to focus on the small things that are relate-able, common grounds, at least for as long as I could. 

One of the common differences , are between those that pay rent/mortgages VS those that don't. Those that know the realities of paying for where you live. The people that know the struggles of having to budget your whole life around that particular lump sum (among others cost that go around living on your own)... 

& for the sake of argument please save me the "I give my mom money" ::eye roll:: , LUCKILY my friends have all been blessed with parents that would give them the shirt on their back. So, no, that doesn't count, because I know you'll still have a roof over your head if you had no income. (I'm sure I'm fluffing a few feathers right now, sorry not all that sorry) 

Obviously not saying one is better than the other, everyone does what the want in their lives & if isn't effecting me directly, then I don't care all that much. && obviously where you live doesn't alter our friendship really. 

BUT it's a difference, which I have noticed changes lifestyles, it's an experience which can't be discussed or taught, until lived through. 

So for the sake of argument... let's have this argument when you experience your first , first of the month... otherwise don't tell me we're on the same boat. 

xoxo

Signs the girl seeing the difference