The List

It's almost a new universal rule to speak things into existence. To write things down so they become a reality. To become aware of the things you want and seek them by noting exactly what those things are.

I've been making vision boards for the last 4 years or so. Every December/January I gather with my sisters and we print out quotes & images of what we want for the year. A 'Vision Board' of all the things we wish to accomplish that year. We are goal setters and dreamers. As long as I could remember our parents have pushed us to be GOAL-diggers, to be independent women that strive for further more than mediocre. To not be complacent with mundane every day things. To believe in ourselves to know to strive for more than the ordinary...  (I've been on complete standstill & pause with this part of my life for the last few years... but that's a discussion for another post...)

One thing our parents didn't discuss much or teach us... was what to look for in a partner. They were so busy raising us as "men" (we learned to be domestic by example, but were consistently told that this was not our role in life). So they skipped on the lessons of mating. I guess they figured life would teach us that part. They somehow thought if they taught us to consistently strive for success that it was only natural that we would pick seemingly "perfect" mates...

let's just say... that didn't necessarily happen...

So for the first time in my existence I looked past the "I just want to fall in love the minute I see him" & the concept that it will just happen, get past my upbringing that partners aren't "goals", and finally wrote down all the things I want in a partner. The same way I write down the many things I want out of life.

The list flowed naturally, I wrote even the smallest details of what I want and it turns out my list is pretty simple, I do not think my expectations are far fetch. I am not asking for more than I am willing to offer. I want basic things that somehow still seem obsolete in modern day society. Of course, I'm aware that I might not find someone that matches every single line item, & I'm aware that some things hold a lot more weight than others. & I'm also aware that I might fall in love with someone that doesn't fully match what I'm looking for.

BUT... I'm now aware, that if I don't know what I'm looking for, I'll continuously find people I'm not looking for. That what I want, need & seek should all be aligned. That I should add it to my vision board this year if that's what I actually want...

& While I'm at it, get back to my other goals in life, I've been playing around a lot these past few years...but the clocks ticking & I'm ready for better... So I'm doing better... Now I have that list completed & I could put it aside let the universe happen. I can get back to working on myself and what I need to do to reach greatness.... the rest will follow. No more aimless focus... no more useless "bae goals"...

simply LIFE GOALS...

xoxo
Signs the girl that's ready.