It's always fascinating to observe humans. One of the many observations that I continue to take notes on is how people cope with moving on from relationships. Different techniques & mechanisms. Not always understood, unless you're living & breathing their reality.
Some wallow in sadness, some seek comfort in others...while others vigorously make it their duty to let loose. All cooping mechanisms, all valid. Some always react the same, and others change it up depending on the situation. Essentially we all do something to cope. We all have ways to get past a certain situation and/or person. We find what works for us and do it, and sometimes we do so unknowingly, just natural defense kicks in and boom...we deal.
A very popular Spanish saying is "un clavo saca otro clavo" meaning "one nail drives out another nail" in literal terms... but the saying means, one person replaces another. As if the only way to essentially get over someone is to replace them. I was never too fond of the saying. I feel all screws leave different impressions in our lives and can't always be filled that easily. As much as we may assume otherwise. But I admit, coping, while having the comforts of someone, does feel a lot nicer, than the emptiness of your reality. God forbid you have to reflect on yourself and what happened in that situation, and do so alone...right?
It's interesting to watch how "quickly" or "slowly" someone moves on. Obviously this is all relative, but it's interesting none the less. I always felt I was one of those people that took forever to move on. Now I'm starting to think I just made that up. That I do in fact move on in due time and in fairly reasonable time. Just my approach is different each time. I've also learned than more often than not I'm better off alone, and often a better person when I am. Guess it's doesn't stop me from getting into situations I probably shouldn't. But that's neither here nor there.
Like most of my writings, my final conclusion is that in life as much as we try to insist that there's a right & wrong way of doing things... there absolutely isn't. What exist is simply the way you choose to do it. Your reality should never follow the manual of someone else's life. We just aren't all built the same, so we shouldn't expect us to function the same. ever.
xoxo
signs the girl who moves on her way.
