Am I asking for too much?

The internet often shoves it down your throat "if they say you're asking for too much, you're asking the wrong person"... but what if in fact you are asking for too much? Maybe you're not asking for something unrealistic, but possibly something that doesn't entirely make sense. Or doesn't happen all at once.

Hear me out... 

What if your expectations & desires are all a fabrication of what you're made to think you should be getting. What if you've created a laundry list of what you want, only to discover time & time again, that life doesn't work that way. That no one will ever match the list, that you'll get a bit of one thing, but not the other. That compromises must be made in order for something to work. That you'll always be lacking in one "Department", but it's up to you if you're willing to let that shit go.

Just maybe...

I'm no expert, in fact I'm a relationship school drop out, a rebellious student who sits in the back of the class and often debates & curses the teacher. I do not believe in rules & often go against the grain when it comes to this topic. Which is why I avoid it, I avoid discussing something so personal, unless you bring it up... nothing grinds my gears more than unsolicited relationship advice. Not because I don't like hearing what people have to say, but mostly because I do not want something so personal to be influenced by the opinions of those I love. & you shouldn't either...

So back to topic... when do you know that you're asking for too much... or when do you know it's time to bid farewell, because you're not getting what you should be. I say "should be" quite loosely, because that's extremely relative... & we've created a very privileged and entitled society. In which we believe we deserve the world but aren't taught how to offer it. Reality check, if you're not giving what you're asking for, do you really deserve it, simply because you're told you should?

Let's take it back to our parents, you know back when marriages made it past the 10 year mark. I don't know about your parents, but I know mine didn't make it 42 years by setting demanding expectations, they also didn't make it this far smoothly. They started dating in a time, where you worked through shit and entitlement wasn't a thing. You got what you got & you made it work...

This is not me advocating people to stay in shitty situations, by all means if you're unhappy, even borderline miserable...get out, quick! But don't leave based on a list of expectations. don't leave because you haven't qualified yourself as #RelationshipGoals. Don't leave because it doesn't feel picture perfect. Don't leave because "better is out there"... truth is there will ALWAYS be better, but if you continue chasing better, you'll never stay to make things right...anywhere....

xoxo
signs the girl working on things...